A lot of couples come to me and don’t know where to get to started. I sit down with them and ask a few questions and then listen… Really listen… You may not know what centerpiece you want , or what type of linen you want for napkins , (that’s where I come in). But you probably know more about what you want than you think. Here are some ideas to get you started.
Write down three to five adjectives that describe your perfect day. This will help you determine what is most important to you and what you want your guests to experience. For instance I had one bride who wanted her wedding to feel like a warm Sunday dinner when all of her family would gather around the table and eat “the best food you ever had” and share a glass of good wine. They weren’t about the dancing but wanted their day to be about family, people that had been through good and bad times with them. Their day was set up with long farm tables placed so they could share good conversation and laughter. I had the Chef use traditional family recipes and they prepared food she was proud of. The bride chose a lace mantilla style veil like her mother wore. To further make the day special we chose her parents 30 anniversary as our couple’s ceremony day and surprised our brides parents by playing their first dance song after the bride and grooms first dance song. Later the DJ handed the mike over to guests as they made the most heartfelt toasts. It was a simply beautiful day full of special moments .
Another bride wanted her guests to dance and have fun and remember her day as the best time they had ever had, so we concentrated on creating a fun atmosphere in the reception area with great lighting and an amazing DJ. The Couple even had a special dance as the bridal party entered the room which got everyone on their feet.
If you are looking for a way to save money, you may want to skip the favors. Often guests don’t see them or notice them and they get left behind. Spend your money on the things that create the day you want , and don’t waste money on things things that don’t add to the experience of the day.